It snowed a lot… 24-27 inches where we live. My dog jumped into the snow and only her head and tail stuck out. She was totally surprised by that!
I’ve been glued to the TV watching storm coverage for the past two days, so I’m glad that it passed in just a couple of days. Although the snowfall was a major topic, I find myself completely distracted and suddenly obsessing over parenting. We were really all about just letting the baby dictate how we did things right away. For example, Harrison is feeding on demand – meaning, I feed him when he’s hungry and as long as he wants whether it’s 5 minutes or 20 minutes. This is a pretty typical way to go about it for a newborn to ensure they get all the calories they ask for. I was feeling pretty good about how most things were going except for his whole night time sleep routine (which is actually getting better!, and my engorgement which is also slowly getting better) and then I went and read some books. I think the books totally screwed with me and now I am doubting like everything that I do. The first few weeks are just survival weeks but there is a certain point where you start to think about how things should be progressing.
I have 3 books on babies/parenting right now: Happiest Baby on The Block, What to Expect The First Year, and The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems. I’ve found that there are useful pieces in each of these books but overall none of them were really a perfect fit, can anyone offer any suggestions for books that they liked or found very helpful? I also have a couple more books on order (Healthy Sleep Habits Healthy Child, and Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two)
The Happiest Baby on The Block focuses a lot on what to do for a crying baby (with a great deal of focus on colic). My baby does not have colic, so I found that annoying. He talks a lot about the 5 Ss as well… swaddling, side/stomach position for calming, shushing sounds, swinging, and sucking. These tips were useful but not exactly rocket science. People rave about this book though, so maybe I am missing something.
What to Expect The First Year is actually really good. I wish that I had read the first part of it prior to delivering because it does talk a lot about what happens when you’re in the hospital. For example, expect your new pediatrician to come to see you and the baby. I didn’t anticipate this, and was totally surprised by his visit. I think that this one was the most useful as far as general reference information.
The Baby Whisperer Solve All Your Problems was probably the most difficult for me to envision for my baby. At this point, Harrison is only 2.5 weeks old so many of the concepts in this book are for babies past the 6 week mark but it’s all very structured. Entire days are built around having a very set schedule of Eating, Activity, Sleeping, and You (meaning taking time for yourself when baby naps). Harrison is definitely coming around to more of a schedule, but I really can’t imagine the hard schedule that she suggests. The idea of having more of a schedule is useful, and the idea of a child learning to put himself to sleep instead of relying on nursing or rocking are both good takeaways for me.
I’m sure that we’ll figure something out that works best for our family after I continue to obsess over it and then likely get overwhelmed and just say screw it to everything. It’s funny to me that I had never considered any of this information prior to actually having a baby in the house. Nobody tells you anything about what to do after you get a baby home or what resources are best – everyone has their own opinion on what people Should be doing. I’d just like to avoid making things harder for now.