Third Trimester – Holy Cow

The third trimester has arrived over here.  That statement set of a flurry of motion over the weekend: the nursery furniture has been ordered and will be here this week, which is way faster than we had it for baby H.  His furniture was ordered early but didn’t arrive until about 2 weeks before he arrived.

We went a different route this time for the crib and dresser.  H’s crib is a convertible crib (toddler bed, then full sized bed), but it was also far too high for me.  I didn’t realize that cribs came in various heights, I seriously thought there was just like a standard because they were all just tall.  Turns out, it’s possible to find lower to the ground cribs for shorties like me (I’m 5’2″).  I was 2 seconds away from buying a crib on Pottery Barn Kids because it was marketed to short people and called “low profile” and it was on sale. The conversion kit has to be purchased separately though and there was an extra fee for “handling” which is obnoxious.  The only reason I didn’t buy it was because it was only convertible to a toddler bed and not a full sized bed too.  For less money (but still costly enough that I felt like it would be well made), I found another nice looking crib at the same lower height, that also only converted to a toddler bed but the toddler bed rail came with the crib, so really it was a Lot less money and just as nice looking with excellent reviews – crib by Babyletto from Amazon.  I was also 2 seconds away from buying a small dresser from PB Kids, but I paused when I saw a $100 delivery fee.  The wall space in the new baby room is a bit limited because it’s a small room with a lot of windows.  I found a dresser that looked pretty much exactly the same at Target with the same measurements, also with excellent reviews and hardwood, and 1/2 the price of PB Kids.  Both the crib and the dresser will be here this week as opposed to waiting like 16 weeks for delivery where we got H’s bedroom set – not that I think the baby is coming asap or anything, but it’s good to get things settled.

baby cribbaby dresserWe’re really not like bargain hunters or anything due to laziness and time constraints, but we just knew that we wanted to try a different direction from H’s bedroom.  His set is from a local children’s furniture place that a lot of people really raved about, and it was well made but also really expensive and the crib height was a problem that wasn’t realized until he was about 4-5 months and the mattress went down a level.  I had to use a little step stool in order to put him down in his crib without waking him and it was a huge pain in the ass.  As he got a little older, I had to lean my entire body on the rail in order to slowly lower him in there – I almost fell in many times.  The good news is that it is very sturdy…

Baby H had a couple of bad nights of sleeping last week – Wed and Thurs, and at the time I couldn’t figure out why.  Fast forward to last night, and I’m brushing his teeth as he’s yelling at me and it turns out that he’s getting a molar.  I saw a tiny white tip poking through, and I wasn’t able to get  really good look so there could be more than 1 but I think that is probably why he was waking last week.  The good news is that I know how to handle it if he has discomfort in the coming weeks, the bad news is that teething is the pits.  He’s really sensitive towards it.

Because I was so effing tired over the weekend from lack of sleep, I fell down the stairs holding H.  It was only the last 4 steps of the carpeted stairs, so it wasn’t Super bad.  My foot just slipped out from under me somehow, and I landed flat on my back with stair corners going right into the center of my back – and H landed mostly on top of me.  I was like in silent screaming pain, and didn’t get up right away, and so H started to have a mental breakdown because he was scared but OK.  I’m still hurting from this incident.  The baby seems fine, he’s been moving and kicking ever since just like he normally is.  This event also reminds me that I’m getting older and that my body just doesn’t heal and bounce back the way that it used to.

H quickly recovered from our fall, and on Sunday we went to the Boston Children’s Museum with friends and he probably had the best day out in public that he’s had in 3 months.  There were only a couple super minor fits, but overall he was a really good boy and truly enjoyed everything in the museum.  He even sat in a bakery/restaurant and ate lunch without losing his shit when we were done – we had been avoiding restaurants because the last couple of times were BAD.  He’s refusing the high chair and the booster seat.  Then he even made it through Whole Foods without incident, he just wanted to help push the cart.

harrison talking on phone_museumIn case anyone was wondering, H has not hit me since I had the behavioral consult at his school so I haven’t really been able to address that with him… but we have been working on giving him choices (which works well) and giving advance notice of things (continues to work well).

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26 weeks and 6 days

26 weeks and 6 days_front 26 weeks and 6 days_sideI’m really close to my third trimester and I am starting to really feel it – I don’t know why I look so tan in these pictures, but Why Yes, I’m wearing red lipstick.  Pelvic pain started this week – it’s different than last time but still unpleasant and annoying.  More desire to eat has started too.  Sometimes I’m just sitting around thinking about cheeseburgers and french fries.  I’m willing to cave to certain things, but I’m also trying to drink green juices that I make in my new Nutribullet so that I can still get some good stuff.  H and I split a “smoodie” for breakfast this morning.  He’s always stealing it and then like spitting raspberry seeds back into it, GAH.  Today’s “smoodie”: kale, pineapple, raspberries, strawberries, banana, water. I get a lot of stomach aches now though.  It seems like a lot of things give me a stomach ache like really random stuff, which sort of takes the fun out of it.  I also MIGHT be getting stretch marks… it’s hard to tell, like I think I might see the faint beginnings of some but it looks to be early.  I’ve been coating on the creams ever since.  Ah well, I’ve come to like one-piece swim suits.

I’m totally exhausted still, but have somehow learned to live and function on less good sleep.  Part of that is adjusting to Abe’s new work schedule – we both get up earlier now, so we’re like zombies by 9pm.  What day is it even?  We never really know.

We have the nursery furniture picked out, so we’re a tiny step closer to actually having it in hand.  We’re not much closer on a name or on emptying out what will be the new baby nursery, but those things will happen eventually.

Not much else to report.  I was troubled when I stepped on the scale this morning, but overall I think I’m still doing better than last time around!

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Parenting 201

Yesterday, I had a “behavior consult” at H’s school to address some issues that we’ve been having at home.  The background as to how this came about is totally ridiculous – the school director heard from another employee that I came in to pick up H one day because he was sick right after my gender reveal ultrasound, and I was crying over having another boy…. Yes, that happened, but I don’t think it’s unusual or like intervention causing by any means.  So the director offered to sit down and put together an action plan to tackle any behaviors that H is having at home that could be better.  He’s really good at school, but is different at home with me.  I brought a list of 4 specific items to talk about: hitting/throwing, potty training, pulling back on TV, when H gets MAD.  The director told me: 1.  if I dedicated 2 weeks to correcting behaviors every single time they happened, I will see a change.  and 2. kids want adults to be in charge, they are looking for someone to set very clear boundaries for them.

The biggest item on the list is Hitting – mainly, he’s hitting me a lot and not really anyone else.  Like with his hands or with objects.  Sometimes he throws things at me – like utensils.  I want to take care of this before a baby enters the picture.   I think that the reasons for him doing these things vary.  He gets mad, frustrated, annoyed, etc. a lot but sometimes he just does it.  We were watching Frozen the other day, and there is this one scene where people are battling a huge snow monster (with swords) and immediately he jumped off the couch and ran to find something to hit me with.  So I finally figured out where he learned that from – thank you Frozen for all that you have given me… so I took away his sword, and his bat, and his super hard hockey stick, because they all serve the same purpose – to hit mom with (Note: these were all gifts, please no more toys like that! OMG).  The advice that I was given here is when he hits me with his hands, I should hold his hands together in front of him firmly so he can’t wiggle away, bend down to his level and say something along the lines of “H, we do not hit in this house.” and continue to hold his hands for about 10 seconds, then slowly turn him away from me and release him and walk away so that I’m dismissing him.  He will likely come back at me, so I should do it again, and eventually he will understand that is not acceptable behavior.  If after 2 weeks, it’s not progressing, we can look at time-outs in a safe gated area but that’s another discussion because they don’t always work well.

Potty Training is something that I’ve been thinking about just in general – should we push to potty train before the baby arrives or say screw it and wait until after.  The director strongly suggested that we wait until the summer.  Her reason was that he’s not showing a great interest, he’s Just now starting to show some interest, but also he really lacks the vocabulary to communicate around the potty situation.  So we’ll revisit this in June/July when he’s 2 1/2.  I don’t mind having two kids in diapers.

H loves TV.  I don’t really have a problem with him watching TV because I feel like a majority of the week, he’s at school where there is no TV and he spends all of his time learning and developing.  He was sort of into things like Arthur and Curious George for a while, but never like a couch potato.  Then he got sick in January and was sick for like 3 weeks so I let him watch TV like no tomorrow because he was a miserable lump on a log and he was happy laying on me and watching his shows.  Then he got better… and he still wanted to watch Frozen 4 x a day or Caillou like 4 x a day (Caillou is so fucking annoying btw) so pulling back on it is a challenge.  The advice was: hide the remotes, distract with something more fun or interesting or allow a certain amount of time and then when xyz happens (when this show is over, or when you see letters on the screen or when the timer beeps) then we go play with play-doh or whatever.

H is a super emotional kid.  He gets super super happy and excited, and he also gets super duper mad and angry.  He shows lots of empathy for when mommy gets hurt, he likes to kiss boo boos and hug mom and stuff which is good, but he also knows how to push buttons.  When he gets mad he makes a super angry face and points at me and yells “NO MAMA!” and folds his arms or stomps or all three.  This usually leads to hitting me.  The advice for this: try to distract before it escalates, don’t feed into his anger and if there’s really no reason for his outburst just stay steady and don’t show any signs of annoyance or emotion.  Sometimes it’s also Ok to validate his feelings, and I can try talking through why he’s mad and that it’s OK that he’s upset and offer a hug.  Currently, I’ve been validating his feelings quite a bit and it usually does work pretty well – but when it doesn’t work, it Really doesn’t work.

Outside of the topics that I brought with me, some other issues/advice that was given: Giving Choices and Giving Warning.  Apparently age 2 is a prime age for offering kids choices, especially in situations where they are not keen on being cooperative.  They love making decisions.  Do you want to brush your teeth with the blue tooth brush or the red tooth brush? etc.  This morning, H didn’t want to put his shoes on to go to school so I said, “do you want to put on your blue shoes or your snow boots today?”  He immediately ran over and put on his snow boots.  I had to change his shoes once we got to school, but it worked enough to get us out the door without tears.  We do try to give him choices often, but we could use this to our advantage Far Far more.  You can actually see him perk up and get a little giddy at the idea of making a big kid choice.  Giving Warning – like before something is going to happen came up too.  So every single night, we read a bunch of books.  Usually 2 truck books, a George book, and a Caillou book or whatever, but we always end it with the animal book and I always am very clear and state “after the animal book, it’s time to go to sleep” and then we stick with it.  So the second part of it is following through.  This has worked well for his bedtime routine, but we don’t do too much of it outside of that, and we should use this a lot more – the key is follow through though.  I find myself giving warning quite a bit, but often not following through, so we both really need to work on that.

So that was long, and we have a lot to work on, but I’m checking back in on this in 2 weeks… wish me luck.

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Baby 2 : 25 Weeks and 4 Days

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Baby 1 : 25 Weeks and 4 Days

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Baby 2 : 25 Weeks and 4 Days

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baby #1: I was 37″ around at this point
Baby #2: I am 39″ around
I can really see and feel the difference too.  My bump feels so effing big.  Like impossibly huge for someone only 6 months pregnant.

I’m so exhausted right now, I’m feeling a little murderous.  H had a really difficult time adjusting back to his normal bedtime routine during and after his illness so he was just like not going down easy and waking up a lot for over a week.  There were a few days were I was up for the day at 2:30am holding my stuffed up child while he slept upright on me.  This pregnancy is just exhausting in general though: working, chasing H, being a functioning human being, etc.  There certainly is a lot less down time and 95% of the day, I feel like I’m running on empty.  I’ve come to the point where even preparing dinner is a momentous task that just can’t be accomplished some nights.

Recently I went in to see the OB and I clearly remember stating “this baby doesn’t seem to move very much and when it does, it’s hardly at all compared to my first baby”.  I would love to take that comment back.  Baby #2 has been kicking the shit out of me for the past 5 days.  All hours of the day!  I’ve also not been feeling that great (my stomach is hurting a lot, ugh), so it’s putting me in a pretty sour mood.  The other day, Baby #2 and H kicked each other at the same time somehow through me – that felt pretty awful.  Already they are fighting or fighting for my attention.

H had his 2 year checkup on Friday where the doctor discovered that his right ear never resolved the infection, so he was put on another antibiotic. Overall, H is healthy though – 37th percentile in height and 10th percentile in weight.  He’s a small guy with a giant personality.  Yesterday, after I picked him up from school and we pulled into the driveway and he yelled, “Careful!”.  I don’t even know where he gets this stuff.

We’re also trying to work on H’s hitting.  He hits a lot and he’s starting to throw things too.  Yesterday, he had an incident report at school because he threw a play fork at another kid.  He’s like the king of incident reports…  I’m going to speak with the school director next week to try and formulate a plan to put an end to this kind of unsavory behavior.  I feel like I can somewhat manage it at home by talking him out of things, but it doesn’t always work – and he hits me more than anyone else.  I’ve read books, but I think that formulating a plan with someone who actually knows my kid will be more helpful.  I’ve dug deep and found more patience than I thought I ever had, but toddlers are tough.  They are always changing – like daily.  My brain is not fluid enough to predict these changes either.  However, today I witnessed a kid having a nuclear meltdown in the supermarket – like screaming and crying, and the mother just calmly kept doing whatever she was doing.  1. I was so happy it wasn’t H and me, and 2. I don’t think I’d be able to calmly tackle my shopping list with that situation going on. This is the second time I’ve witnessed this in only the past week, and both times the moms were really chill about it – I need more chillness I think.

I’m taking tomorrow off – I doubt that I’ll discover more chillness in 1 day, but I’m going to try.

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Chop Chop

laura hair 2 12 2015I cut off all my hair yesterday… don’t mind the lopsided angle, it’s actually the same length on both sides.

It was one of those total FREAK OUT moments where I just hated my hair because it truly changed so much since my first pregnancy that I just wanted to start fresh.  Everything is different about it these days: the color is lighter, the texture is not as silky smooth, it’s easily damaged and damaged looking, and it’s a whole lot of blah.  I’m a lot happier with less of it.  This is probably the shortest it’s been in over 10 years, and I thought it would be harder to let go of something that felt that I needed so much.  I felt like I used my hair to hide behind or whatever, and now I’m just like Eff It.  Like who the Eff cares?!  After I give birth to baby #2 (who is only 3 months away BTW), I’m going to get some highlights too.  This is not wild and crazy to most people, but for me, it’s like a big thing.  I just hate sitting there getting my hair done for so long and so frequently, but I think sometimes change is important and feeling good about oneself is even more important.

Also, last night I realized that the baby is going to be here pretty soon so I better start preparing or something.  There is a Pottery Barn Kids Friends and Family Sale going on today, so I ordered the curtains and the mobile that go with the bedding that we already have.  We still need to paint the room, get furniture, a diaper pail, a changing pad, a rug, a sound machine, and a monitor and I feel like those basics will be enough to get by or like say we’re basically done.  We somewhat have a name.  It’s not truly final, but we have 1 name that we both like at this moment in time – which is pretty huge considering we couldn’t decide on baby H’s name until the day we left the hospital.  Things are sort of progressing…

Little H is driving us INSANE right now.  He’s been sick in some way or another for like 4 weeks.  It was a cold, then a double ear infection with bronchiolitis, then his cold never went away, and it’s still here really.  Last night, he woke up like 4 times.  I was up with that dude from 1:30-3:30am.  He was sleeping on me, like upright so he could breath out of his nose, but if I laid him down he’d get all stuffed again and would like wake up and freak the Eff out.  Nights are bad.  I heard there is a 2 year sleep regression too, which I think we’re totally experiencing.  He resists bedtime, and he used to be so good about just laying down and going right to sleep on his own.  Now, I put him down and he stands up and screams for like 30 minutes (it’s been like 2 weeks of this).  He will usually eventually fall asleep after that, but once in a while I’ll have to go in there and rub his back to help him nod off.  I think it’s like sleep regression and like separation anxiety maybe – he became extra attached to me after we were home together for 10 days straight during his illnesses.  Anyhow, I don’t know what to do here.  He’s driving us nuts, we’re exhausted, he’s been tired, and at this point I don’t even feel like we can leave him with a babysitter so we can go out to dinner or anything.  Like that’s how bad he is right now at night, and we really need a night out!!

I don’t even know where to go from here with H’s sleeping issues – any thoughts?

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21 Weeks, 23 Weeks, and H Bear Updates

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23 Weeks and 5 Days

Someone said to me like two weeks ago, “That’s going to be a BIG baby!”  Like, Fuck.  What do you even say to that?  I just get a big baby bump ok…

I lost my measuring tape in this pig stye of a house, but I can say that I don’t feel much bigger than I was a few weeks ago.  I think that my growth has slowed.  Weight gain seems OK too, which is a nice bonus (sidenote: my sweet tooth is SCARY right now, watch out.)

January was a really tough and hideous month.  H got a double ear infection on top of a cold and bronchiolitis.  He had a fever for over a week and was out of school and home with me.  Even after his fever was gone, his cold persisted – we’re going on like 3 weeks  His nose is still so stuffed that he wakes up a night because he’s snoring or like can’t breath well.  I’ve had a cold for almost 2 weeks now too – with the worst part being the terrible cough that went along with it.  I think we’ve finally turned the corner, but it was ugly.  We’ve been in pure survival mode.  We even watched Frozen for the first time and then watched it 15 times since then.  H can now sing “Let it go!!” in a hilarious little voice.

Oh, we all turned a year older too in the past 2 weeks.  H didn’t notice, Momma didn’t care, and Dad woke up on his birthday feeling ancient.  Well actually, Momma is thinking about using eye cream so like I guess I feel a bit older too.

The other day, H was home sick and he came running up to me and was like “Word Girl!” and I made him repeat himself like 15 times and finally I was like, “Oh, you want to watch Word Girl?”  and he said, “Yes. Word Girl.”  I didn’t even know A. that he’s ever seen that show before, and B. that he knew how to say either Word or Girl.  He asks for shows now Very specifically.  He’ll often be playing and doing something and then suddenly like sit up and run over and announce “Caillou!” seemingly out of nowhere, and then he wants to watch an episode.  His normal shows were: Curious George and Arthur and that’s it, and now suddenly he is asking for all these other shows… it’s weirding me out.  We’ve been caving to his TV desires lately because he was so sick for such a long time and if TV made him happy, then so be it, but now I am not sure how to pull back on it.  I really do love both Arthur and Curious George though!  The rest, I could live without.

We’re also in this really fun stage where H wants to do everything himself.  All week he’s been pouring his own milk – which is not as crazy as it sounds.  He drinks a shelf stable milk alternative that’s like 1/4 the size of a normal milk jug, but still, he generally spills each time.  If I even try to pour it without him, he’ll scream “HARRISON DO IT! MY TURN!!” and it’s like Ok fine, it’s not worth the fight.  Last night, he got home from my parents house and he unzipped his coat and took it off (then threw it on the floor).  I had no idea he knew how to do that.  Like, who is this kid??  How long have I been taking off his outerwear when he could have been doing it himself?

Newest H obsession: Soup.  He asks for soup like 3 x a day.  He wanted it for breakfast on Monday and Thursday.  I made this sweet sausage and kale soup (which is truly delicious), and he slurped that stuff right up for a couple of days and then it was gone and he refused to eat anything and I made another batch and he slurped it up again, and now he just wants soup all of the time.   It’s a win because it’s well balanced nutrition in there and he actually likes the veggies, but I can’t keep making soup and serving it nonstop, it’s just weird.  I have beef stew in the fridge for him right now, lots of it.

I’m pretty sure that the only thing keeping me sane right now is our new Nespresso machine.  I got the Pixie Bundle model and could not possibly be more in love with it.  I make myself an Americano every day – H LOVES to help with that too.  I’m not sure if he’s more obsessed with soup or coffee right now, but he’ll often say “Coffee!” and that means he wants to help me make one.  Unfortunately, he usually asks at like 7pm and I will have to say no… the crushing disappointment on his face is priceless.  On weekends when he can help make 2 coffees, Oh Man, those are good days!  Sometimes, when he’s desperate to make a coffee and one of us agrees and then picks him up, he’ll be like “YESSS!”  I am not sure where he got that, but it’s just so appropriate.  He has so much funny personality.

We’re bracing ourselves for another storm this weekend… Momma got a delivery of Nespresso pods yesterday, Daddy is stocked up on sparkling waters, and H has plenty of soup in the fridge.  We’re ready.

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Crazy Kids

I had to go back in for another ultrasound last week – it was weird, like the nurses were just like “oh the photo wasn’t that great, we need to have you seen again but this time at the hospital and with a specialist” and then I get there and the doctor is like “the nuchal folds looked a bit thick, that’s the reason you are here, but I’m not worried about it” and I was seriously like “…WTF!”  She was really chill about the situation, so in the end I was like Whatever Ok.  Baby is fine, and they re-confirmed the gender after I told them I like seriously had to know again, and it’s still a boy.  They even printed me a photo with an arrow pointing at the penis (I can’t tell what’s going in there)…that’s a baby book keeper.

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Once the gender was re-confirmed, I ordered the nursery bedding because I had a coupon code that was about to expire (admittedly without that coupon code I would probably still be debating what to buy).  I might actually be ahead of the game this time around because I even ordered a print for a wall – but the momentum could come to a screeching halt once we start on the furniture since we don’t have a plan there or even the inkling of a plan.

Little H is pushing limits in this house.  I just ordered 3 toddler parenting books.  He is so strong headed, and he is very emotional.  Also, he’s like super smart and he knows how to act with different people – which drives me nuts.  He hits me a lot because I’m more strict with him and that’s of course no fun.  Just this morning he hit me with his hand, and then tried to hit me with his hammer.  His Hammer!  I’m not equipped to handle this.  Abe tried to give him a time-out, which he still doesn’t really understand but once he stopped crying and calmed down he walked over to me and gave me a hug without being asked.  So that’s nice.  It also shows me that he understands that he knows he did something wrong, but he can’t seem to grasp the full concept yet.

Later in the evening, H was being a real pill.  He was just demanding things left and right and weepy and whatever with Abe here.  The level of his frustration was at like a 9 (I think Abe’s was like a 12).  Then he sits down to dinner with me, Abe leaves to go out, and H is totally normal again.  He didn’t even really eat, but he did a complete 180 and was back to being a playful fun kid.  He was agreeable to 100% of what I asked of him for the next 3 hours, including diaper changes and going to bed.  We played with Duplos, “cleaned” or waived around a Swiffer duster, did some artwork, played catch, ate a couple popscicles, jumped on the trampoline, laundry, watched football even, and all of it was without any drama at all.  I am wondering if it’s because he expects daddy to cave to his every request  or because he was just feeling rather moody before.  Toddlers are the most confusing life forms on this planet – or mine is at least!

When he was jumping on the trampoline, I sang this silly little song to him that I used to sing when he was a baby in his jumper… like back when he was like 7 months old.  He is jumping like a maniac and just says to me, “No Mama, No baby.”  Did he just have a flashback to being a baby in the jumper and me singing a song about him being a jumping bean??  He probably meant to say something else.  Either way, I stopped singing that song because he freaked me out and clearly this 2 year old is not a baby.  I’m totally going to be that mom that’s always embarrassing her son in public by forgetting he’s like a grown man or whatever.  I’m going to end up calling him my Little H Bear when he turns 21 and thinking nothing of it.  I guess that’s a mother’s right though.

I ate a whoopie pie for dinner. That’s also my right!

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Gender Reveal… dun dun duuuuun

Ultrasound_19 weeks 1 dayThe big gender reveal…. well we were wrong, it’s a boy.  Baby H will have a baby brother this summer [alligator tear].  I was a lot more upset than I thought I would be finding out this news.  I had been hoping for a girl, and I truly believed that this pregnancy was different so it must be a girl.  Obviously I was wrong, but Abe was just as wrong.  My mother was right of course….gah.  I already had a nursery scheme picked out in my head – it was going to be light gray and pink but those dreams are no longer.  Now I have to choose from like nautical blue crap or rocket ship blue crap. Boo.  What makes this harder is that we both only wanted 2 kids, so now we’re like: shooooot.

We have no boys names.  I have names and Abe has names, but we don’t have any names that we both like unfortunately.  We just like different styles of names, which makes it monumentally difficult.  H’s name was literally the only name that we both liked for a boy, and a little after we got home from the hospital Abe was like: I’m not sure that I really like the name H… and I mentally punched him in the face.  I think that the name does suit him well though in the end.

For girls names, we had a nice choice of like 3 that will now go to a future pet.

Little H is actually really sick today.  He has a low fever, is puking, not really eating, and he has this hacking cough with faucet nose.  Honestly, the worst part about his illness is the foul mood that it puts him into!  He is refusing medicine, and when I do get some in there he usually pukes it up, so it’s like a war over here. I’m not really sure who is winning.

On the upside, the horrible nap situation is no longer out of control.  Momma put her foot down, and H has been taking most of his at home naps in his crib.  He fights it, and does not enjoy it, but I don’t care.  I can’t tolerate him napping only in the car or on top of Abe in the family room any longer.  It really has become way more inconvenient than it needs to be.  Like the other day, he was napping in the family room for hours and I was starving… but I couldn’t eat anything because anything I did in the kitchen would have woken him up.  If I can’t even eat lunch, then it’s just not Ok!  He might sleep longer while on top of dad, but I don’t care about that either.  He just needs 1.5 hours and he is able to do that in the crib.  More than that is just bonus.

Now I change his diaper, put him in a sleep sack (he asks for it), and then read him his usual 4 books that he demands at normal bed time.  I place him in his crib, and tell him that Momma needs to go rest so he and Mr. Lion need to rest too.  He cries for 5-10 minutes, and then I go back in there and tell him to lay down and I’ll rub his back – 3 minutes later he is dead asleep generally.  I think it’s Ok to rub his back to sleep right?  I am refusing to rock him or hold him to sleep at this age (and weight!), so it’s basically like he’s putting himself to sleep with just a little assistance I think… anyhow, big improvements and Momma is much happier because she can nap or have a snack if she wants one.

harrison napping 1 6 2015

In other non-baby related news: my debit card was compromised earlier today.  Like it was declined at the car place when I tried to pay for a ridiculous repair and I was like Hm, so then I call and they had me talk to a fraud person.  They had me verify the last 3 transactions and 2 of the 3 were McDonald’s… I could have died.  It’s been a very long time since I’ve had fast food, but yesterday I got some nuggets for lunch and this morning I got breakfast so I could sit and chill while waiting at the car place.  It was like super embarrassing.

So the ridiculous car repair – yesterday Abe backed out of the garage and like shattered the passenger side mirror off the Jeep.  And let me tell you, I saw and heard it happen from inside and it was funny.  It was loud and hilarious.  I did almost this same exact thing to our old Jeep two years ago, so of course having him do it was just like so funny to me.  I think that he even laughed deep down inside for about 3 seconds.  What was not funny was the bill and the inconvenience of getting it replaced.

I bought red lipstick today at the drugstore.  I kept seeing this one particular shade being listed as friendly for all skin tones and since it was just a regular old drug store brand, I thought “hey, why not spruce myself up once in a while”.  So I bought it (Revlon Cherry Blossom), and wore it around the house while caring for a sick child.  It made me feel very housewifey, and then every time I looked in the mirror I was like: OMG, HOOKER!  So I’m very on the fence about this look for me.  Maybe it’s just something I need to ease into or get used to.  Either way, this week has already been an adventure, I might as well add some color to it.

laura_cherry blossom

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19 Weeks and Counting

19 Weeks and 1 day.  Overall I feel Ok.  If I stand for a long time my tail bone will really hurt, and if I stand for a moderate amount of time my left thigh falls asleep completely.  I’m not sleeping great right now, I just can’t get comfortable.

I’m already at the point where I feel massively stuffed after eating something the size of a side salad.  This morning I had oatmeal with blueberries and a coffee and I felt like I was so beyond stuffed for like 3 hours.  That’s ridiculous.

I haven’t had many cravings, but I’m still mostly interested in fruits and veggies and turned off by things like ground beef.  Most of my lunches are salads, which is good.  I don’t remember eating many veggies at all with baby H.  I remember veggies turned me off with him, especially green peppers.

My skin was a major concern of mine with my last pregnancy.  I had bad acne, and lots of pigmentation issues.  Nobody feels good when they are having to cake on concealer just to leave the house.  Just in the past 3 days, I had a big acne explosion but I can’t really complain because I was basically 100% clear up until then so I’ll just hope it gets better.

I’ve been feeling the baby move more often.  I think I first felt it move around 15 weeks, and has just recently become a more frequent occurrence.  The baby likes to kick in the afternoon, which makes me feel hopeful that this one won’t be confused about night and day the way H was.  He mostly kicked at night.

Something that I never experienced with baby H was the thirst I’m having.  I seriously cannot get enough water, I’m so effing thirsty all of the time.  Abe got me a big glass water bottle for Christmas, so I’ve been able to keep better tabs about how much I’m actually drinking and I find that I drink more because it’s there and ready.  The downside of that is that I now pee nonstop.

19 weeks number 2

19 weeksI feel like one of those people who decide that after new years it’s a good time to start becoming more active.  I’m 0% active.  Like, I barely walk even.  My Up band used to record like almost 10,000 steps on most days but now not only does it need to be charged but it’s more like 3,000 steps when I do wear it.  I barely move at all.  I’d like to change that because 1. my brother is getting married like 7 weeks after my due date (WTMF), and 2. I just think that I’d feel better.  With baby H, I had really horrible pelvic pain so I couldn’t be active at all starting around week 22.  Walking was very painful for me even, so hopefully this baby decides to sit a bit differently and I can at least go for walks on the treadmill and outside once the weather gets nicer.  I’m not even going to pretend like I’m going for major life changes here, I’m just trying to take some baby steps and get moving again.  I should probably buy some sneakers…

Tomorrow, we find out the baby’s gender.  I’m dying to know.  I’m really hoping for a girl.  I know I shouldn’t say that, but it is what it is and I want a girl.  I want to buy tu-tus and ballet slippers and braid hair.  If it’s not a girl, then so be it, and H will be very happy with having a brother to torment and make trouble with I’m sure.  To Be Continued…

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New Beauty Products Worth Trying

I’ve been using some new beauty products since October that I think have really become game changers in my beauty routine.  Maybe it’s aging or hormones, but my skin has really changed during this past year.  I used to be one of those combination skin people (really oily t-zone with really dry elsewhere) with acne concerns.  Breaking out was a daily concern of mine and I found a dermatologist that I really like, however, acne is difficult.  Now I’m more like classic combination skin with moderate oily t-zone and somewhat dry elsewhere with minor acne concerns and more skin tone evening concerns.

In October, I discovered Peach and Lily (www.peachandlily.com – sorry my link tool won’t work on WordPress lately) through a fashion/beauty blog and they mentioned that this little company was doing a very special Korean beauty box that could not be missed – obviously I signed up.  It was amazing, all the products were all full sized, and the directions were all written in English by Peach and Lily thank God.  The retail price was a total steal, I think it was like 50% off what you would have paid for each individual product.  I still use many of those products today, so here we go, my new favorite beauty products which all started with a Korean beauty box but are not all necessarily from there only.

face products

Embryolisse Moisturizer (Amazon): This stuff is super thick, and super hydrating.  The first week of using it, I felt like it was going to clog my pores and just be far too much for my breakout prone skin.  3 weeks later, I didn’t have more breakouts by I did have way more hydrated skin.  The smell is really perfumey, which I could live without, but I think this moisturizer is amazing.  I use a pea sized amount every night after washing.

Dermalogica Clearing Skin Cleanser (Dermalogica.com): I’ve been using this cleanser for a long time now, and I only use it at night and really just a tiny amount.  I think it does a really good job though, and my dermatologist approved of the quality of the product itself.  It doesn’t over dry my skin, which I like, but it seems to stop breakouts effectively.

Cremorlab Mineral Treatment Essence (Peach and Lily):  I honestly don’t really know what this does.  It claims to do a lot: hydrate, brighten, smooth pores and fine lines,  and improve texture. It’s fragrance free and paraben free and uses only natural minerals.  After I cleanse, I put a few drops in my palms and then just rub it all over my face and neck.  I feel like it hydrates, and I really like the way it feels, but I’m not sure that it brightens or smooths pores and fine lines.  The Essence step is one of the more important of the Korean 10-step cleansing routine (I guess) and I wouldn’t stop using it, but I can’t really quite explain why either.  It just feels nice.  The bottle is huge and will likely last a lifetime.

Clindamycin Phosphate and Benzoyl Peroxide Gel, 1% / 5%: This is a prescription from my dermatologist.  She advised that this is safe to use when pregnant because the dosage is so low, and I only use as needed.  I didn’t use this in my first pregnancy because I hadn’t tried it yet, but I’ve been using this for about 8 months now and  find it to be gentle and more effective than not using anything at all.  It’s not over drying, but it won’t exactly take a laser beam to a zit or anything like that.

Banila Co. Clean It Zero (Peach and Lily): This is an oil based cleanser and taking the plunge into trying something like this with my acne concerns was something that was really gradual.  I started by using the Dermalogica Precleanse, which is really just an oil cleanser that takes off all of your makeup before using a regular cleanser.  I had great results with that and then ran out and never bought more, and because of that comfort level I was Ok with trying this one.  It’s the same concept: use the oil based cleanser all over to take off all your makeup, you can literally see it melting off – especially eye makeup.  Then if you want to double-cleanse (which I do), I will then follow with the Dermalogica Clearing Skin Cleanser.  The double-cleansing process has probably made the biggest difference in my skin!  The Clean It Zero, comes in a pot and you use a little scooper to scoop out a little piece of like buttery texture cleanser and it melts in your hands.  I’d prefer if it was in a pump or a bottle – the pot is really big.

Cremorlab White Bloom Floral Cream (Peach and Lily) – This moisturizer claims to even skin tone and brighten your face.  I don’t know, but I like it.  It’s sort of a medium moisturizer – not as heavy as Embroylisse and not as light as most drug store brands.  I’ve been using this as my daytime moisturizer, and have been happy with how it feels.  I don’t feel brightened or more even in tone, but the consistency feels luxurious.

Clio Kill Black Water Proof Liner (Peach and Lily) – hands down the best liquid liner that I’ve used.  I have the hardest time with eyeliner: it smudges, or looks too harsh.  This one allows you to draw a super fine line right at the lashes, and you can do it easily with the brush.  It doesn’t smudge either, which is really the best news I have about it.  I only use this on the top lid.  I have experienced smudging on the bottom lash line with this, but my bottom lash line is more challenging than most.

Peripera Smoothie Waterproof Pencil Liner (Peach and Lily) – I think this liner is pretty good as far as pencil liners go.  It resists smudging Pretty well, better than most that I’ve tried.  I have to check it when I wear it throughout the day though, because inevitably at some point I will see smudges. It still leaves me wanting more though as far as a nice black eyeliner that doesn’t smudge, doesn’t look too harsh, and that glides on smooth.

Since this very amateur photo was taken, I actually have a few more items to add to my list (Not Pictured):

Be The Skin Non-Stimulus Face Polisher (Peach and Lily): This is a super gentle exfoliator that uses herbs and other botanicals.  The grains are teenie tiny, and I really like the result.  It feels gentle and my face looks slightly refreshed after.

Fekkai PrX Reparatives Shampoo and Conditioner with Argan Extract (Drugstore.com): I had some really damaged looking hair after the summer (but also just in general my hair different post-baby)  It could have been that I’ve been using the same shampoo and conditioner for like a year, which is a really long time, but my hair has never looked so bad before.  I brought travel sized Fekkai produts with me to Orlando over Thanksgiving and immediately saw a difference – my hair looks smoother and healthier, so I picked up full sized bottles and I’m so much happier.  I’m a total convert now.

I think that this is the most beauty product change I’ve undergone at one-time in years and so far it’s all been with great results (Luckily!).

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